It was one of those typical days, I was on my way home from work, on my usual route to Papine. I usually get on the bus, sit by myself (I’m a loner) and listen to Barry G/News on Nationwide. But that day was different, the moment I got on the bus, I was greeted by Etana’s song “Free”. For those of you who know that song, it holds a very powerful message. I forgot the amount of appreciation I hold for the song and the artist. Automatically I went into evaluation mode, entering into deep thought. I thought about how imperative it is to free your mind; not just from how you think/perceive life, but from this humane society. The prolific artist said it: “Emancipate yourselves from mental slavery, none but ourselves can free our minds.” – Bob Marley. In today’s society, stress is one of the most common conditions that affects the human body, both internally and externally. The forces of the universe attack the mind/body/soul in a sometimes deceptive way. I won’t divulge into the history of stress, but my point is: we as humans can evaluate how we respond to levels of the different factors that affect us on a day to day basis.
What affects their decisions?
Influence/Social Acceptance – This aspect of life is what we are accustomed to, it is the most influential. How we socialize with our peers/friends/associates is now deemed more important than thinking for one’s self. The impact these relationships have on us is just as important. It’s sad to say, but a lot of people live vicariously through others, especially with the cultivation of social sites/music. Some people want to be accepted by the very same beings that love-hate them. If they don’t do what their friends are doing, they are labeled the outcast, or the non/un-cool friend. As for some, just to be accepted, they will go to the extremes of going broke and stay hungry till the next day. I’ve seen it many times before; it’s even more prevalent now with the vast majority of social gatherings. It seems to me that thinking for others is the new trend; suddenly they don’t have a mind of their own (you are responsible for what you think, it’s a control mechanism). As a result of this, some people lose their basic right to choose. There is a tug and war between their selves and their minds. For some reason we always play the “Good Samaritan”, which is the right thing to do. There is a difference between being used and helping another. Some people take the opportunity to become leeches. They become leeches, then roaches, so much so that they crawl into your skin and suddenly you start to draw from their negative energy. We all have friends/associates, but we must be wary how much of our energy we let other people consume. Protect it, it’s your right.
“Let no man pull you low enough to hate him.” — Martin Luther King Jr.
Forgiveness – This is one of the most difficult tasks; it uses that part of you that you would not want to divulge and give to another that doesn’t deserve it. One of the noted writer’s said “The person who inflicts the injury goes free, leaving the injured party in pain and misery.” He also said, “Forgiveness is not the denial of the emotions of hurt and anger. Forgiveness does not repress and hold down feelings. Forgiveness does not suppress the fullness of the pain. Forgiveness does not pretend that everything is fine and act nice when the problem does exist” – Bob Philips. Therefore you see how imperative it is to forgive.
“Forgiveness is surrendering my right to hurt you back if you hurt me” – Mark Twain
Breaking Cycles – Breaking cycles is one of the most euphoric experiences known to man, it’s like a new change/growth, or achieving a prestigious award. Once you have broken those cycles, then you will understand what I mean. It starts with you. I stumbled upon this (breaking cycles) through frustration, it was a period in my life where I was frustrated with what was happening at that time, and like a new kid with a toy, I got excited to start this new venture. This was one of those activities I partook in. Like a new habit, I took it up forcefully and willingly. I will share one of my personal experiences. As I stated before, I don’t like talking about myself, so bare with me.
My personal Experience – I remember being in a particular relationship, even though I knew it was damaging (we argued a lot), mentally but not physically, if you know what I mean, either way I would still find myself back there. I’d gotten so used to the negative energy that it consumed me for a while. What made it so interesting was the fact that I would not go back for months (even though I was always welcomed no matter what), and each time I did, it became even more bitter-sweet/dangerous. One day I went into evaluation mode and said to myself “I need to break these cycles” (there were other things I needed to let go of) which I did. Mark you, it was not easy. With the relationship, I started to avoid the calls/texts (trust me, eventually they will stop) they persistently called for 1 month. Even between intervals, I thought they would get the point (there was no need for me to explain myself) but as I said it lasted for a while. In the end, after months of not corresponding, I was confronted with why I broke off the relationship. My response was “We are two different people, therefore being with you is not healthy” in which they responded with “Ok”. I think at that point there was no use arguing anymore. What I’m trying to say is that you should control your life, take charge of it and if you decide to do something, stick to it. From that day on, I took it as my routine to break the unnecessary things that hurt me.
- Sometimes we get so caught up with society that we forget the simple things, like: Praying/giving god thanks and reading the bible.
- Sometimes we care so much about others that we forget about ourselves. Not understanding that it all starts within us.
- We take so much effort into pleasing other people so we can be talked about and recognized. But if only we recognized how talented/special/unique we are, then there is no need for validation.
Free Your Mind:
- Free your mind from the negativity that surrounds you.
- Free your mind from how you think/feel – Pessimism.
- Free your mind from the people who ceaselessly make you feel low/useless and unappreciated.
- Free your mind from the social ethnic culture, that pressures you to do things you don’t want to do, when in reality that’s not who we truly are.
- Free your mind from that negative person, who never ceases to lure you in with their negative energy. “Negative energy breeds negative energy” (introduce him/her to this blog)
Tips to free your mind:
Read the bible
Leisure reading/daily inspiration
Break bad habits and acquire new ones.
Love yourself – who you are is a reflection of how you deal with people
Smile and complain less (people are predictable)
De-clutter your life – friends/home/mind
Surround yourself with positive people
Listen to your favourite band
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” – Eleanor Roosevelt